WOW! Read all the comments on yesterday’s post and I totally agree with every single contributor on Instagram, on our Facebook page and on our Blog.
One thing I must say is that I am really impressed at all the comments but the question still remains “IF WE LADIES KNOW ALL THESE, WHY THEN DO WE ALLOW THIS MEN TO MESS US UP?”
There will be no need to share the stories I promised earlier because it’s still the same story I have read over and over again in all the comments.
Why I became worried was that in this case these men are just newly weds.
Barely a year old in marriage. So I am not even talking about aristos, as in older married men who obviously one can tell they are either married or divorced.
These are Boy-Men! Boys that were not ready for marriage, but got into it and can’t seem to stop the dating-cheating games.
These are boys of 25- 40 years old. So you can’t find fault with some of the ladies that have fallen in their trap because they couldn’t tell these guys were married. Infact I have been told it’s a clique thing, that these boys live fake lives. They have houses with everything well-arranged and furnished like a proper home with even domestic staff available! They go out with these ladies and of course with their friends, who are also married boys and pretending to be singles. Some even take them to their parents and families and of course I can bet you it’s a GREEDY WICKED MOTHER that knows that her son is wrong but still condone it. God have mercy!
Now girls, these boys are not fools. They know what they are doing. They target mostly big single ladies. Girls that have worked so hard for their money and desperate to settle down! These boys have motives, they just want to use you and dump you later. Such boys are always demanding one thing or the other including money.
Please ladies let’s be wise:
- PRAYERFULLY ASK GOD TO REVEAL EVERY MAN THAT APPROACHES YOU FOR A RELATIONSHIP.
- TRY NOT TO GIVE INTO SEX.
- TRY ALSO NOT TO GIVE HIM PRESENTS OR MONEY.
- TRY NOT TO CHEAPEN YOURSELF.
- AVOID ANYONE THAT HAS A TAN BAND ON HIS FINGER.
- IF HE SAYS HE IS DIVORCED, PLEASE DON’T RUSH INTO THE RELATIONSHIP.
And why the hurry girls? You just started dating a guy for 3 months and you are thinking of marrying him? WAKE UP GIRLS!
It’s a crazy world. Millions of married couples are dying to come out of their marriage and another set of millions are dying to get in. Marriage is indeed a mystery and to be honest with you all, it takes only God as your foundation for you to enjoy a successful marriage!
So the bottom line is, God is just everything you need so be wise and do it godly.
May God grant us all understanding. Have a blessed day.
Please I must add:
From most of the comments I read I am seriously surprised why we women would marry a man who wouldn’t wear his wedding band.
See girls, let’s stop making excuses for our men! Tell them these rings are meant to be worn if not he is not ready for commitment. The ring just represents your vow and it is suppose to be a sign to always remind you of what you have gotten yourself into.
Please stop making excuses for them. If it’s tight on him now, tell him you guys should go and change it and when you have got it changed, don’t just wear the new rings, please get them blessed and say your vows again before putting it on!
This is my honest opinion, no offence please!